Pro tip: bend the cheap spoons from the back of the drawer, not the nice ones
Last week I grabbed a spoon from my grandma's old set and it folded like paper at barely any pressure, while a random one from a $2 thrift bin in Reno took a full lean and just laughed at me. The thin stamped ones with the flat handles snap right at the neck, but the heavier ones with a little ridge down the handle bend smooth and hold the shape. I keep a bowl of the good cheap ones now and toss the flimsy ones back, because a spoon that folds on the first try is no fun at all. So my rule is feel the weight first, then bend, and you get way less heartbreak. What's your go-to test for telling a good bender from a dud before you even pull on it?
Read somewhere that the old cheap spoons from diners were made thicker on purpose cause they got dropped and bent all the time. Stamped flatware from the 60s and 70s is usually your best bet, that stuff was built to last. Modern dollar store spoons are the worst, they hollow them out to save metal and the neck is paper thin. Found a whole box of old diner spoons at a yard sale once and not one of them folded. Flick it with your finger too, if it rings a little instead of going thud, that's a good sign.