Tarps have their place in serious wind, but man you miss out on the full tent experience. Nothing beats having bug netting and a proper floor when the weather turns nasty. My tent feels like a little cozy room at the end of a long day, a tarp just feels like a roof. I'll take a bit of flapping for that comfort any time lol.
I get why you love that cozy room feeling, verah38, but for me that's exactly what I want to escape. Being under a tarp feels like you're still part of the world instead of shut inside a little box. You can always add a bug net and a piece of plastic for a floor on the rare nasty night, but most times the open air is worth it. All that tent flapping and condensation just makes me wish for the simple silence of a good tarp pitch. It's less about having a room and more about feeling the space around you, you know?