Why I stopped telling my dad to just cheer up

I used to think my dad's low moods were something he could control with willpower. Learning about clinical depression from a support group showed me it's not that simple. What's the best way to offer help without being pushy?

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thomas_davis7h ago

That shift in understanding is huge. Clinical depression often comes with physical stuff like zero energy or messed up sleep, so telling someone to cheer up is like telling a person with the flu to just stop coughing. Instead of big gestures, try low-pressure offers for specific, small things. You could ask if he wants company on a quiet walk, or if you could grab his groceries while you're getting your own. It shows you see the struggle without making him feel managed.

robin4927h ago

Take @thomas_davis's point about low-pressure offers. It's so key to offer help, not pressure. Instead of saying cheer up, just be there for small things like he said. Your dad might not take the help right away, but knowing you get it means a lot. Keep it simple and steady.